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Empowered Choices: Reclaiming Your Reproductive Autonomy<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Dear Black Woman,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Note:<\/strong> Let me set the stage a little bit. This message is written only<\/em> for the women landing here because they are seeking abortion services \u2014 not for the general public. Something brought you here, and this message is for you. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

(This isn’t focused on situations of rape and incest.).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am currently a child-free doula<\/strong>, and I have chosen celibacy<\/strong> as part of maintaining full reproductive autonomy. I have delivered over 100 healthy, happy babies<\/strong> across a wide variety of circumstances, which gives me a unique perspective on the realities of reproductive choice. My experience is personal and professional \u2014 I understand the challenges that bring women to consider abortion. This message is meant to help you navigate your choices with clarity, power, and reflection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want less trauma for all women<\/strong>. What connects our womanhood is the thing that has us sharing the aisle looking for 100% cotton or heavy flow leak control once a month. It heavies my heart<\/strong> to know that we have a large unspoken cycle that my community needs to heal. In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king \u2014 and I am not even claiming to be the one-eyed man \u2014 but I feel that something needs to be healed<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since the mass availability of reproductive support for women in general, Black women have taken advantage of it in ways that have actually gotten them far ahead of other groups<\/strong> in certain ways, particularly in education and business starting. So I\u2019m not here to say that when used correctly it cannot help advance your life, but there are some growing pains<\/strong> associated with it that should not have to be repeated more than once if possible. This is because of the potential damage it can do physically, and the possible effects on your future pregnancies if you choose to have children later in life. Minimizing trauma to your reproductive organs is best.<\/strong> This isn\u2019t to say abortion is inherently dangerous, but too many can be.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Demographically, we, as Black women, are the number one recipients of abortion in America.<\/strong> That\u2019s not a statistic meant to shame us \u2014 it\u2019s a mirror, asking us to look deeper. It\u2019s a call to evaluate how we engage with our bodies, our partners, and the systems around us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve heard that Margaret Sanger (the mother of modern reproductive control\/services) was a racist, I urge you to read her words yourself<\/strong> before forming judgment (No matter how you feel.). Margaret Sanger was born up north and didn\u2019t start her work out of politics or prejudice \u2014 she started it out of pain.<\/em> Her mother, Anne Higgins Sanger, died young after 18 pregnancies<\/strong> \u2014 eleven births and seven miscarriages. Watching her mother\u2019s body and spirit wear down inspired Margaret to dedicate her life to helping women control when and how they brought life into the world. That was the root of her mission: to give women the freedom her mother never had.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sanger\u2019s doors today \u2014 through Planned Parenthood and other reproductive health services \u2014 offer more than abortion. They provide birth control, health screenings, reproductive education, and preventive care<\/strong>. Many of us rely on these services, and that\u2019s okay. But if we\u2019re going to use them, let\u2019s do it from a place of knowledge, strength, and choice \u2014 not confusion or conflict.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am currently a child-free doula<\/strong>. I\u2019ve used reproductive services when needed, and when I decided I no longer wanted to rely on them, I chose celibacy<\/strong>. That is one of the most powerful ways to achieve absolute reproductive autonomy<\/strong> \u2014 ensuring no one has control over your body or your future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s my framework for empowerment:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Celibacy is the most effective way to prevent unwanted births.<\/strong>
It guarantees the outcome, is trauma-free, and gives you full control over your body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Intentional sexual activity:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n