Before you have sex with a man, ask yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If I became pregnant by this man, would I trust him with what comes next?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Would I want to raise a child with him? Could I depend on him during a medical emergency? Would he respect my decisions? If the relationship ended tomorrow, would I still be willing to have this man connected to my life through a child?<\/p>\n\n\n\n That is what I mean when I say: F#ck like you live in Georgia.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Evaluate every man you consider as if your life literally depends on it. Because one day\u2014whether in the near future or years from now\u2014it may.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He may be willing to have sex with you without being willing to accept what follows. A father can have legal responsibilities, including child support, but those obligations do not guarantee that he will show up or share the work of parenting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You would carry the pregnancy and face its physical consequences. Before sharing your body, consider whether his actions demonstrate the responsibility that his words promise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n On March 4, 2026, police arrested Alexia Moore, 31<\/strong>, in coastal Georgia. She was charged with murder and two drug offenses after allegedly taking misoprostol, a medication used in abortion care, and oxycodone while approximately 22\u201324 weeks pregnant. According to police records, she went to a hospital in December 2025, delivered, and the infant survived about an hour. These are allegations described in the case, not findings of guilt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The murder charge was disputed. At a March hearing, the district attorney said police brought the charges without his office\u2019s support. Both the prosecutor and the judge questioned the murder charge\u2019s factual and legal basis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Moore spent nearly three weeks in jail before being released on March 23. The judge set a total bond of $2,001: $1 for the murder charge and $1,000 for each drug charge<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Her arrest does not establish that Georgia law permits a murder conviction simply for having an abortion.<\/strong> An arrest, a charge, and a conviction are different things. No later disposition was verified for this article.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But her case demonstrates something women should understand: a disputed charge can still result in jail, court proceedings, and the need for legal representation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Georgia generally prohibits abortion after embryonic cardiac activity can be detected, usually around six weeks of pregnancy<\/strong>. That can be before a woman knows she is pregnant. The law has exceptions, so six weeks is not an absolute cutoff in every circumstance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Moore\u2019s case involved allegations about a pregnancy at 22\u201324 weeks, an infant reportedly born alive, and drug possession. It should not be presented as though every woman who obtains an abortion in Georgia faces the same charge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The accurate warning is that pregnancy and its outcome can expose a woman to investigation and attempted prosecution\u2014even when the legal basis for the charges is contested.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A man saying, \u201cWe\u2019ll figure it out,\u201d does not explain how you will obtain care, pay for travel, or respond to a legal emergency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Imagine having sex with a man in Los Angeles. A few days later, you travel to Georgia to visit family, start a job, or move.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You do not yet know you are pregnant. While there, you miss your period or take a pregnancy test.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Where you conceive and where you discover the pregnancy can be two different states.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Conceiving in California does not make California\u2019s abortion protections govern care provided in Georgia. You may discover the pregnancy after Georgia\u2019s general cutoff and need to arrange care elsewhere if you do not qualify for an exception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That does not mean you must remain in Georgia and give birth. But arranging care elsewhere may require transportation, money, time off, childcare, and somewhere to stay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Would the man you slept with help you navigate that situation? Would he contribute and respect your decision\u2014or leave you to manage it alone?<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is no reliable count identified for this exact scenario.<\/strong> CDC abortion surveillance tracks women\u2019s residence and where abortions occur. It does not establish where they conceived, where they first discovered the pregnancy, or whether they traveled or moved between those events.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Moore\u2019s case also does not establish that she conceived in California or traveled from a state with abortion access. Her arrest and the interstate pregnancy scenario are separate examples.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The possibility deserves consideration without inventing a statistic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Chemistry can make a man feel right for tonight. Pregnancy asks whether he is a man you can depend on afterward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Watch his behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Does he respect your boundaries? Will he participate in preventing pregnancy, or does he treat contraception as your responsibility? Can you discuss pregnancy openly? Does he show up when something is inconvenient?<\/p>\n\n\n\n A man who pressures you to have unprotected sex is already showing you how he handles your wellbeing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A man who says, \u201cWe\u2019ll figure it out,\u201d should be able to explain what that means.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Who would attend appointments? Who would contribute financially? Who would care for a child? What happens if you disagree about the pregnancy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n A promise made in bed is not a plan.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n You may want children someday without wanting children with this man.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You may love him and still recognize that he would be an unreliable coparent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Be honest about that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ask yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n You do not owe a man access to your body to keep his attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can choose celibacy\u2014for now, for a season, or indefinitely. You do not have to keep having sex while hoping the man, the circumstances, or your own uncertainty will change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can want affection, companionship, and love while deciding that sex is not a risk you want to take right now.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you do not want to become pregnant, are unsure about the man you are seeing, or are not prepared for what a pregnancy could mean, choosing to abstain from sex that can cause pregnancy is a valid option.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You do not need to justify that decision. You can say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI am choosing celibacy because I am protecting my health, my peace, and my future.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pay attention to his response. Does he respect your boundary, or does he bargain, guilt you, threaten to leave, or keep testing it? His response tells you something important about whether he respects your decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Celibacy is a personal choice, not a measure of a woman\u2019s worth. Women who have sex still deserve respect, healthcare, and support. But you deserve to know that waiting\u2014or choosing not to have sex at all\u2014is an option.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You do not owe a man sex to prove your love or keep his attention. Your future is a sufficient reason to pause.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you do not want a pregnancy, give prevention the attention that decision deserves. Discuss contraception with a qualified healthcare professional, understand your chosen method, and make sure the man you are sleeping with respects the plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you would welcome a pregnancy, ask whether he shares that intention and is prepared to participate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you choose celibacy, decide what that boundary means for you and communicate it clearly. You can reconsider your choices on your own terms, without pressure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Planning cannot guarantee an outcome. Pregnancy can happen despite precautions, and a man can change after making promises. Becoming pregnant does not mean a woman failed to protect herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Thinking ahead still gives you time to identify concerns, set boundaries, and arrange support. Before traveling or moving, consider what care would be available if you discovered a pregnancy at your destination.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As a doula, my job is to tell you the truth about whatever path you are on. That includes the possible benefits, the risks, and the circumstances that can make your choices harder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sex can offer pleasure, closeness, and connection. It can also lead to a pregnancy that affects your health, finances, relationships, and future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Look at the man you are choosing. Look at his actions. Consider the laws where you live and where you may travel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then ask yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIf pregnancy happens, is this a man I would willingly build that future with\u2014and what is my plan if he does not show up?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n And if your answer is that you are not ready to take that risk, you can choose to wait.<\/p>\n\n\n\n F#ck like you live in Georgia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Choose with your future in mind before pregnancy makes the question urgent.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Before you have sex with a man, ask yourself: If I became pregnant by this man, would I trust him with what comes next? Would I want to raise a child with him? Could I depend on him during a medical emergency? Would he respect my decisions? 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What Georgia\u2019s Abortion Restriction Means<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
You Can Conceive in California and Discover the Pregnancy in Georgia<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
How Many Women Does This Happen To?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Look at the Man in Front of You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Would You Choose Him as a Father?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Celibacy Is Also a Choice<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Make a Plan That Matches Your Intentions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
F#ck Like Your Future Matters<\/h2>\n\n\n\n