Author: L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula
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F#ck Like You Live in Georgia
Before you have sex with a man, ask yourself: If I became pregnant by this man, would I trust him with what comes next? Would I want to raise a child with him? Could I depend on him during a medical emergency? Would he respect my decisions? If the relationship ended tomorrow, would I still…
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Preparing for Miscarriage Care: Questions You Can Bring to Your Appointment
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula When you are facing a miscarriage, medical information and everyday logistics arrive together. You may be trying to understand treatment while also wondering who will watch your children or whether you can work tomorrow. Writing questions down can help you keep your priorities in the conversation. You do not…
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Building a Practical Support Plan for Miscarriage Recovery at Home
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula “Let me know if you need anything” can be difficult to answer when you are tired, uncomfortable, or trying to understand what just happened. A simple home support plan turns that offer into something specific. Your plan does not need to cover every possibility. Focus on making food, transportation,…
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Fifteen Years That Echoed
Anne Frank lived only fifteen years. Fifteen. She never reached adulthood.Never saw her diary published.Never knew her words would travel across the world. She wrote in hiding.She wrote without certainty.She wrote without knowing if anyone would ever read her pages. (She often wrote about one day wanting to be a writer) And yet she wrote…
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Saturday at the Thrift Store
The Music Behind Intention Last weekend I took a small trip with a friend to a local thrift store. It was the kind of place filled with narrow aisles and quiet clutter—rows of old kitchen appliances that I had last seen in my grandmother’s kitchen, shelves of mismatched mugs, boxes of faded board games, and…
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When You Feel Relief and Grief After Losing an Unplanned Pregnancy
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula You may not have known whether you wanted to continue the pregnancy. You may have been worried about money, your relationship, your health, or becoming a mother at this point in your life. Then you miscarried, and your feelings became more complicated rather than simpler. Relief and grief can…
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When Intimacy Feels Different After Miscarriage
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula After miscarriage, touch may feel comforting, unwelcome, or different from one day to the next. You may want affection while feeling anxious about sex. You may worry that a hug will be interpreted as an invitation to do more. These are conversations worth having clearly. Your partner does not…
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Walking ⬅️➡️ Through Grief
Overcoming Infant Loss The death of a baby after birth is one of the most devastating experiences a family can face. Infant loss occurs when a baby dies after being born, whether hours, days, or months later. Unlike miscarriage earlier in pregnancy, parents may have already held their baby, cared for them, and begun building…
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Preparing for Your First Prenatal Appointment After a Loss
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula A new positive pregnancy test may bring hope alongside memories of what happened before. Booking the first appointment can feel like a major step, even before you enter the office. Pregnancy after miscarriage can involve anxiety and mixed feelings. You do not have to feel confident or excited on…
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Before the Test
Preconception Reflection & the Wisdom of Rilke A Doula’s Guide to Listening to Your Life Before Pregnancy Begins Rainer Maria Rilke’s Letters to a Young Poet is a small but powerful book composed of ten letters written between 1902 and 1908. A young aspiring poet named Franz Kappus had reached out to Rilke for guidance,…