Category: Grief & Healing
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Understanding a Missed Miscarriage: When the News Comes Before the Symptoms
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula An ultrasound appointment may begin with ordinary expectations: a measurement, a picture, an update. Hearing that the pregnancy has stopped developing can feel difficult to understand when your body has not given you an obvious warning. A missed miscarriage is a pregnancy loss in which the pregnancy tissue remains…
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Preparing for Miscarriage Care: Questions You Can Bring to Your Appointment
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula When you are facing a miscarriage, medical information and everyday logistics arrive together. You may be trying to understand treatment while also wondering who will watch your children or whether you can work tomorrow. Writing questions down can help you keep your priorities in the conversation. You do not…
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Building a Practical Support Plan for Miscarriage Recovery at Home
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula “Let me know if you need anything” can be difficult to answer when you are tired, uncomfortable, or trying to understand what just happened. A simple home support plan turns that offer into something specific. Your plan does not need to cover every possibility. Focus on making food, transportation,…
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When You Feel Relief and Grief After Losing an Unplanned Pregnancy
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula You may not have known whether you wanted to continue the pregnancy. You may have been worried about money, your relationship, your health, or becoming a mother at this point in your life. Then you miscarried, and your feelings became more complicated rather than simpler. Relief and grief can…
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When Intimacy Feels Different After Miscarriage
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula After miscarriage, touch may feel comforting, unwelcome, or different from one day to the next. You may want affection while feeling anxious about sex. You may worry that a hug will be interpreted as an invitation to do more. These are conversations worth having clearly. Your partner does not…
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Walking ⬅️➡️ Through Grief
Overcoming Infant Loss The death of a baby after birth is one of the most devastating experiences a family can face. Infant loss occurs when a baby dies after being born, whether hours, days, or months later. Unlike miscarriage earlier in pregnancy, parents may have already held their baby, cared for them, and begun building…
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After More Than One Miscarriage: Preparing for a Conversation About Testing
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula After another miscarriage, you may find yourself returning to the same questions with more urgency. Is there an explanation? Should someone be looking more closely? What would change before another pregnancy? ACOG defines recurrent pregnancy loss as two or more miscarriages and recommends an evaluation after two. You can…
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Walking ⬅️➡️ Through Grief
Overcoming Miscarriage Miscarriage is one of the most common yet least openly discussed experiences in pregnancy. Medically, miscarriage is defined as the loss of a pregnancy before 20 weeks, and it occurs in an estimated 10–20% of known pregnancies. Despite how frequently it happens, many women experience miscarriage quietly and often without the support that…
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Facing Your Due Date After a Pregnancy Loss
By L.A. Loss & Abortion Doula A due date can remain on your mind long after the pregnancy has ended. It may be written in a calendar, attached to a season, or connected to plans you had begun to make. You may want to mark it. You may want an ordinary day. You may not…